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Matrimonial Service Brought To You By the Creators of BCMuslims.com
Sun. Jul. 04, 2010
The first thing everyone is probably asking themselves when reading the subject of this email is “Do we really need another matrimonial website?” We believe the answer is yes. The second question that may come to mind is “Ok…why?” To that we would simply ask you to try the following. Do a Google or Bing search for “Muslim matrimonial”. You are likely to see a list of results such as the following:
SingleMuslim.com
MuslimMatrimony.com
Nikah.com
MuslimWedding.org
You can visit each of these and you’ll see pretty much the same thing. You can search of a brother or sister based on their age, affiliation/sect and location.
Now do a search of “online dating” and you will get a list results such as:
PlentyOfFish.com
KissCafe.com
LavaLife.com
Singles123.com
You can visit each of these sites and you’ll see pretty much the exact same content as you saw on the matrimonial websites with the exception of the ability to search by affiliation/sect. The first question we would ask is “Is looking for a husband/wife the same as looking for a girl/boy-friend?” Ask any married person and I guarantee you they would say that it’s no-where near the same.
The reason many of these sites look and feel the same is because the majority of them are created by the same companies. These are primarily created by Non-Muslim dating corporations that though that it would be easy enough to meet a new target market by adding the ability to search by the usual things as well by the affiliation/sect you’re looking for. How can a non-Muslim corporation know what type of information Muslims are looking for when trying to find a husband/wife? There are a few Muslim run websites but they seem to be following the same model as these dating sites.
If we look a little bit deeper and click on a profile from either type of the site we will virtually get the same generic questions:
“Hobbies”
“About myself”
“What I’m looking for”
“Partner preferences”
How does any of that information provide us with any insight as to what a prospective spouse is really like and what their beliefs are? Now we’re not saying that any website can tell you what a person is really like because it’s easy to be whomever you wish on the internet but honestly…a person has about as good a chance of meeting a spouse using current matrimonial sites as they do by simply walking into a Masjid and asking the first person they meet if they’re interested in getting married!
All these websites do is provide a place with a concentration of Muslims allowing people to judge everyone simply by their physical appearance. Our beloved Prophet (pbuh) stated that there are four characteristics that one can marry someone for:
1. looks/physical appearance
2. wealth
3. linage
4. iman
He (pbuh) stated that only iman will stand the test of time. If we look at existing Muslim matrimonial sites, they all focus on looks / physical appearance or wealth. “Looking for a doctor, lawyer or engineer for my lovely well educated daughter.” Sound familiar? It seems that everyone is looking for a fair skinned doctor that lives in the US. If you truly believe that these types of criteria lead to a happy marriage well, then Nikahfied.org (our website) probably is not for you.
Regardless of your level of religiosity, you probably have a rough idea of what you are looking for and what type of person might be a good fit for you. If you don’t, ask those close to you. As we stated earlier, we can’t tell you everything about a potential spouse…however, we give you a better idea of:
1. what they are looking for
2. what their opinions on marriage are
3. what they believe the role of a husband and wife are in a marriage
4. what their level of religiosity is
5. how they handle everything from stress to relationships
We are able to provide this type of information by requiring all users to complete a detailed survey about themselves and what they are looking for. We use the information our users provide to make their search as easy as possible. This information will also allow others to get a better understanding of who you are and whether or not they believe you might be a good match for them.
The other distinguishing feature between Nikahfied.org and other matrimonial websites is that the service we provide is completely free whereas the majority of these websites charge a monthly fee.
At this point your probably thinking “What’s the catch?” and our answer is “Absolutely nothing.” We don’t sell your information nor do we share it with anyone. There is a minimal amount of tastefully placed advertising on our website to cover operating expenses but nothing more. Any extra money we make through the advertising will be donated to a range of charities. Our goal is to help people fulfill the sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and find a spouse to live the rest of their lives in happiness inshallah.
The divorce rate amongst Muslims is rising around the globe. We believe that this is due to people not understanding what to look for in a spouse or how to make things work one they get married. To help educate our users about the Islamic perspective on marriage, we provide links to resources (courses, lectures, articles, etc.) about what Islam has to say about what to look for in a spouse, and how to have a happy and health relationship. This too is offered free of charge. We are also in the process of partnering with educational institutions to provide and expanded range of courses related to marriage.
So if you’re currently looking to get married or know someone who is, let them know about Nikahfied.org. We are currently open for registration and hope to have the official launch of our website mid to late June inshallah. You can follow us on Twitter or Facebook to get updates on the status of the website. If you have any questions or comments please contact us at info@nikahfied.org.
Nikahfied.org - For Muslims serious about getting married
SingleMuslim.com
MuslimMatrimony.com
Nikah.com
MuslimWedding.org
You can visit each of these and you’ll see pretty much the same thing. You can search of a brother or sister based on their age, affiliation/sect and location.
Now do a search of “online dating” and you will get a list results such as:
PlentyOfFish.com
KissCafe.com
LavaLife.com
Singles123.com
You can visit each of these sites and you’ll see pretty much the exact same content as you saw on the matrimonial websites with the exception of the ability to search by affiliation/sect. The first question we would ask is “Is looking for a husband/wife the same as looking for a girl/boy-friend?” Ask any married person and I guarantee you they would say that it’s no-where near the same.
The reason many of these sites look and feel the same is because the majority of them are created by the same companies. These are primarily created by Non-Muslim dating corporations that though that it would be easy enough to meet a new target market by adding the ability to search by the usual things as well by the affiliation/sect you’re looking for. How can a non-Muslim corporation know what type of information Muslims are looking for when trying to find a husband/wife? There are a few Muslim run websites but they seem to be following the same model as these dating sites.
If we look a little bit deeper and click on a profile from either type of the site we will virtually get the same generic questions:
“Hobbies”
“About myself”
“What I’m looking for”
“Partner preferences”
How does any of that information provide us with any insight as to what a prospective spouse is really like and what their beliefs are? Now we’re not saying that any website can tell you what a person is really like because it’s easy to be whomever you wish on the internet but honestly…a person has about as good a chance of meeting a spouse using current matrimonial sites as they do by simply walking into a Masjid and asking the first person they meet if they’re interested in getting married!
All these websites do is provide a place with a concentration of Muslims allowing people to judge everyone simply by their physical appearance. Our beloved Prophet (pbuh) stated that there are four characteristics that one can marry someone for:
1. looks/physical appearance
2. wealth
3. linage
4. iman
He (pbuh) stated that only iman will stand the test of time. If we look at existing Muslim matrimonial sites, they all focus on looks / physical appearance or wealth. “Looking for a doctor, lawyer or engineer for my lovely well educated daughter.” Sound familiar? It seems that everyone is looking for a fair skinned doctor that lives in the US. If you truly believe that these types of criteria lead to a happy marriage well, then Nikahfied.org (our website) probably is not for you.
Regardless of your level of religiosity, you probably have a rough idea of what you are looking for and what type of person might be a good fit for you. If you don’t, ask those close to you. As we stated earlier, we can’t tell you everything about a potential spouse…however, we give you a better idea of:
1. what they are looking for
2. what their opinions on marriage are
3. what they believe the role of a husband and wife are in a marriage
4. what their level of religiosity is
5. how they handle everything from stress to relationships
We are able to provide this type of information by requiring all users to complete a detailed survey about themselves and what they are looking for. We use the information our users provide to make their search as easy as possible. This information will also allow others to get a better understanding of who you are and whether or not they believe you might be a good match for them.
The other distinguishing feature between Nikahfied.org and other matrimonial websites is that the service we provide is completely free whereas the majority of these websites charge a monthly fee.
At this point your probably thinking “What’s the catch?” and our answer is “Absolutely nothing.” We don’t sell your information nor do we share it with anyone. There is a minimal amount of tastefully placed advertising on our website to cover operating expenses but nothing more. Any extra money we make through the advertising will be donated to a range of charities. Our goal is to help people fulfill the sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and find a spouse to live the rest of their lives in happiness inshallah.
The divorce rate amongst Muslims is rising around the globe. We believe that this is due to people not understanding what to look for in a spouse or how to make things work one they get married. To help educate our users about the Islamic perspective on marriage, we provide links to resources (courses, lectures, articles, etc.) about what Islam has to say about what to look for in a spouse, and how to have a happy and health relationship. This too is offered free of charge. We are also in the process of partnering with educational institutions to provide and expanded range of courses related to marriage.
So if you’re currently looking to get married or know someone who is, let them know about Nikahfied.org. We are currently open for registration and hope to have the official launch of our website mid to late June inshallah. You can follow us on Twitter or Facebook to get updates on the status of the website. If you have any questions or comments please contact us at info@nikahfied.org.
Nikahfied.org - For Muslims serious about getting married